This is an extract from my book Letters to my daughter to be.
My dearest faithful daughter,
I’m writing this as the last letter because it is the most important of them all. You could forget everything I’ve said in all the other letters but remember what I say in this letter.
I love this quote: “If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything.” What do you stand for? What are your beliefs? What are your values? What would you be willing to stake your life on? It’s important to know this because for those not so great times you need to know where you’re going to turn. What’s going to keep you going when you feel like you can’t go on anymore? As my daughter I’d like to believe the answer to this is God but you are your own person and you make your own decisions.
I don’t know what your life has been like up to now but I can tell you this, things won’t always go the way you want them to or expect them to. At some point in your life you will fail at something. Something will happen that will make you wonder if moving forward is possible. Unfortunately that’s just how life is. For such times, what is going to be your anchor?
What will keep you going against any and everything that comes against you? Know what or who that is because if you don’t you can fall and not know how to get up or not find a reason to get up. If you make it any person, what if they fail you or they stop loving you or they leave you? What then?
For me knowing that God my father loves me unconditionally keeps me going no matter what comes against me. I know He has my best interests at heart even if I don’t like what is happening. I know and trust that whatever it is, is meant for my good and in time I will see why. Even if I don’t get to find out why, that never ending love God has in store for me lets me know that no matter what, God’s got my back.
That’s the kind of father God is. He offers unconditional love. A love that doesn’t judge. A love that is kind, generous and understanding. A love that won’t falter or disappoint. What is required of you is belief. Belief that God is your creator and that He sent His son Jesus Christ to die for you. If you believe that then my dear, nothing that comes against you will be too big for your Father.
Have faith in Him and He will give you the desires of your heart. My precious, if you have faith, anything is possible. Faith can move mountains. If you truly believe you will see what you’re believing for come to life. And for those things you were believing for that don’t happen, trust that God has a reason for it. Where God closes doors, He will open a bigger and better one. Put your trust in Him and be patient as you prepare for what you are hoping for.
As I’ve been raising you I hope I’ve ingrained this in you by now, be grateful for what you have. Give thanks for all that you have and what you don’t yet have because that is how you will be blessed even more.
Be a giver my darling. Give whenever and however you can. Be it your time, energy, love, money, food or anything else. When you give you get more than that which you would have given. I saw this in your grandmother’s life and I hope I’m living up to that. Don’t ever tire of it because the more you give the more you will receive.
Be kind to those around you. Even when they are not kind to you, be kind to them. God sees any unfair treatment you may receive and He will compensate you for it. I know sometimes it’s not easy to be kind to people who you feel do not deserve it but please do try. That might be what it takes to make them change. You can reach people more with your actions than with your words. Instead of telling someone to act a certain way, show them with your own actions.
I’m sure as you grow older and as I grow older and learn more I’ll write you more letters. For now let me end here. I love you and pray for you every day. I can’t wait for you to come into my life. For the days when we disagree on something or you feel I’ve done something you are not happy with, remember I loved you before I met you.
With love your earthly mother,